I know we all do it! As much as you want to convince yourself that you do not compare yourself to other women, you do. I always do and that is my major downfall. Especially if I’m having a sluggish day, if I see a woman in the same area as me that is super shredded and looking good, I will walk straight back out. In that moment I do not care what workout I wanted to do, if they look better than me I get embarrassed.
THAT IS NOT THE RIGHT MENTALITY TO HAVE!!! It’s OK to look at yourself and think about what you need to improve on but it is in no way healthy to compare yourself to others and put you down because of it! Now I know that we are out own worst critics but this is what I want you to think. “It’s about the journey, not the end result.” Whenever I compare myself to someone or are having an off day, I think back where I started and compare my old self to the self I am now.
How to overcome that self-doubt
I want you to do it now. Think about when you started your fitness journey. Think about how you felt, how you looked and where you wanted to be. Now think about yourself in this present moment. What are your goals? How far have you come since you started? Now I want you to think. Truly think hard. Is it worth getting upset or frustrated about who you are now when you were so different back then? Look at how far you have come. Look at where you were! Not jsut physically but mentally. Everytime you lift them weigths or run on that treadmill, you become that much stronger mentally. I have learnt to only ever compare myself to… well myself. My old self to my new one. You should do the same. You will then be more motivated during your workouts to better yourself so in the future, you can compare yourself again to the person reading this post today.
Starting out in your fitness journey?
If you are starting out in your fitness journey, LISTEN TO ME NOW. I need you to take pictures of yourself. Lots of them. All different angles. That might sound weird and if you are anything like me, you will hate taking them. But you must do it. To see exactly how much progress you are making. Because you look at yourself everyday you are less likely to see the results. Comparing pictures is a great way to see the results for yourself.
I know at first, you don’t know where to start at the gym and you may feel completely lost. Well a) that’s why I’m here. To guide you through your journey and help you with anything you are having trouble with and b) you cannot look at others and compare physiques. That is a rookie mistake and one that puts a lot of people off from going to the gym in the first place. Obviously, these people may have a better silhouette or curves, that doesn’t mean you can’t. What you have to remember is that these people have probably been going to the gym for years. Once upon a time they probably looked like you and I. But they changed that. They didn’t let others or their self-loathing stop them getting the better of them, and you can’t either. When you look back on them pictures, you will see how far you have come in a short space of time and that will make you more optimistic about the next lot of pictures you will take. In a year’s time you can compare pictures from the year before and see the complete transformation that you have made. The pride is something else. Something only you can feel because YOU did it for yourself and that is the most precious thing you can hold. And in all honesty, I would love to share that moment with you!!